We’ve been hurt, somebody we counted on let us down; somebody we trusted betrayed us and our trusts; somebody took advantage of our weaknesses. The hurt went deep. There is no delete button for the past. It keeps coming back to your thoughts, like a video tape sewed in our mind every time it plays it re- runs, feeling the pain again.
We have made our hard decision. Do we want to spend the rest of our lives with pain and abuses we did not deserve in the first place? No of course! Because we have found a way to heal ourselves. It is not one way among many, it is the only way and God invented it! It did wonders for me ! I call it FORGIVING. It is the only way to be fair to ourselves. If you don’t forgive, you are giving the person who wallop you once the privilege of hurting you over and over again in your memory. Some may say, forgiving is not just fair, “why do I need to forgive those who hurt me?” If that will be so – you will go on suffering in it, where there is such a simple remedy – forgive.
Others would even say that if you forgive you make yourself a doormat for people to walk on. . . I think this is wrong. Forgive those who wronged you, but do not tolerate their wrongdoings. Forgive those who sinned you but stop it and don’t do it again. Don’t let people who sinned you to crawl back on their knees and say they are sorry and beg you to forgive them. Don’t wait to forgive, if you do so, you may wait forever and you are stuck with pain hurting yourself forever!
Why do we have to put our future and happiness in the hands of those who hurt and abused us? If you refuse to forgive until someone begs you, you are letting this person decide for you when you may be healed of the memory and rotten things done to you! Forgiving is like a journey, it takes time. So be patient and don’t get discourage and we must all remember that the first person who gets the benefit of forgiving is always the person who does the forgiving. When you forgive, you set a prisoner FREE and then you discover that the prisoner you set free is YOU!
When we forgive we walk hand in hand with the very GOD who forgives us everything. When we forgive, we heal the hurts we never should have felt in the first place. FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRANSGRESSED ON US AND GO ON WITH OUR LIVES. . .
” If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us in our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
(1 John 1:9)
